Never assume someone is angry because of you

Beware “Othello’s error”: Assuming someone’s emotion is aimed at you. If the other guy is angry, the tendency is to assume he is angry because of you. So you fret and stress and think what you’ve done wrong. Meanwhile you’ve done nothing wrong. His anger has nothing to do with you. Rather avoid unnecessary angst…

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Bad guys don’t walk around with horns on their heads

Fools don’t walk around with a clown hat. People don’t advertise their flaws. People learn to disguise their shortcomings. So don’t expect to see a conman wearing prison clothes. He’ll be better dressed than the most respectable person on earth. Bad guys don’t walk around with horns on their heads.

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Beware what you want to believe

It’s easier to believe the most outlandish lie that confirms what you want to believe, than the most plausible truth that denies it. So be careful fixing on beliefs. Rather keep an open mind. That way when you hear a lie, you’ll spot it. And when you hear a truth, you’ll believe it. Beware what…

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Its not your fight

There are plenty problems out there. Plenty injustice. If you try to get involved in every unfair situation, you’ll fritter your energy away. If it’s not your company, it’s not your problem.

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You can’t have an adversary without being one

Feel like someone is out to get you? Remember: you can’t have an adversary without being one. If you don’t want the fight, then choose not to see the other person as an enemy. Life is too short for fighting. Save your energy for making stuff.

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What are you afraid of?

Afraid of disappointing your parents? Afraid of what people say about you? Afraid of losing money? Afraid of failure? Your fears are your Achilles heel. If you can’t overcome them, they will drive your insecurities, and create a brittle shell of arrogance. You must overcome your fears. How do you do that? Simple: Go into…

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Always chase humility

Humility makes it easier for people to give you feedback. Humility makes it easier to learn stuff. Humility makes you approach the world with a mindset of “I know nothing”, rather than “I know everything.” Arrogance is the opposite of humility. Arrogance rejects honesty. Arrogance rejects learning. Arrogance engenders enemies. Arrogance comes from insecurity. From…

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Know thyself

Knowing yourself is probably the hardest lesson of life. This is not a new revelation. The Delphic Oracle at the Temple of Apollo was built in 400BC (2400 years ago). The oracle had the answers to all your questions. At the entrance to the temple was inscribed, “Know thyself.” In other words, if you wanted the answer…

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Without loyalty you can’t be a leader

Loyalty is having your people’s backs, through thick and thin.Loyalty is not blaming your employee when he/she makes a mistake.Loyalty is fighting for your partners/colleagues/friends, even when you know you’re going to lose.Loyalty is looking after a team member when she gets sick, even if the sickness prevents her from doing her job.Loyalty engenders loyalty….

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What is the “right thing”?

Most of business comprises hard decisions. Choosing between several options without a clear idea of which direction to take. Deciding what is the “right thing” to do. That’s why you need a moral compass. Your moral compass points you in the direction that aligns with your ethical code and your values. Your moral compass points…

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Balance left and right brainers

One of the greatest leadership challenges in business is creating an environment for creative & innovative people (right brainers) to create magic, whilst ensuring you have accountants and engineers (left brainers) to turn the magic into reality. It’s easy to pander to right-brainers and come up with amazing ideas every day, but then you will…

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3 tips for being a better leader

Avoid people that flatter you. If someone doesn’t give you an honest reflection of yourself, that person is hurting you. You need to maximise your self-awareness. To do that you need strong, honest people around you to hold up a mirror. Steer clear of gat-kruipers. Don’t expect someone else to save you. Only you can save…

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